Rules for Survival
'The temptation to quit is greatest just before you are about to succeed' - Chinese Proverb.
This quote explains where I am at right now. I am closer to the finish line for this semester and there are all these voices in my head rooting for me to quit. They are rooting for me to quit for all kinds of reasons, with the main intention for me to finally give in and stop trying.
Like everybody else, I have had to endure my fair share of obstacles throughout this semester. I have also had some remarkable experiences that gave me the hope that anything is indeed possible if you work hard at it and give it your best shot. Having said that, I still don't understand why the temptation to quit never ceases the opportunity to creep into your life somehow.
I know from past experiences that everything turns out fine after the storm passes, yet this knowledge rarely helps in keeping my mind from wondering about the worst possible outcome. Things may not work out on my terms and how I would have anticipated them to, eventually the dust settles and things do become much clearer.
Yet here I am fighting with these voices to stay afloat and not give in. It is then when I repeat this mantra to myself, 'the temptation to quit is greatest just before you are about to succeed'. These words help in affirming that what I am going through is perhaps perfectly normal and that indeed, when you are about to accomplish something of value in your life, you will be tempted to quit.
Sometimes we give into that temptation and when we do, we end up in a worse position than before. The key however, is to get up and find what works for you to keep on pressing through those painful days. After all without a bit of rain we can never truly appreciate the sunshine.
Here is a little something that helps calm my nerves a bit and slowly gets me up from a dark space back into the light. Bob Parsons, CEO of GoDaddy.com, shared his life and his 16 rules that he used for his survival.
- Get and stay out of your comfort zone. I believe that not much happens of any significance when we’re in our comfort zone. I hear people say, “But I’m concerned about security.” My response to that is simple: “Security is for cadavers.”
- Never give up. Almost nothing works the first time it’s attempted. Just because what you’re doing does not seem to be working, doesn’t mean it won’t work. It just means that it might not work the way you’re doing it. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn’t have an opportunity.
- When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think. There’s an old Chinese saying that I just love, and I believe it is so true. It goes like this: “The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.”
- With regard to whatever worries you, not only accept the worst thing that could happen, but make it a point to quantify what the worst thing could be. Very seldom will the worst consequence be anywhere near as bad as a cloud of “undefined consequences.” My father would tell me early on, when I was struggling and losing my shirt trying to get Parsons Technology going, “Well, Robert, if it doesn’t work, they can’t eat you.”
- Focus on what you want to have happen. Remember that old saying, “As you think, so shall you be.”
- Take things a day at a time. No matter how difficult your situation is, you can get through it if you don’t look too far into the future, and focus on the present moment. You can get through anything one day at a time.
- Always be moving forward. Never stop investing. Never stop improving. Never stop doing something new. The moment you stop improving your organization, it starts to die. Make it your goal to be better each and every day, in some small way. Remember the Japanese concept of Kaizen. Small daily improvements eventually result in huge advantages.
- Be quick to decide. Remember what the Union Civil War general, Tecumseh Sherman said: “A good plan violently executed today is far and away better than a perfect plan tomorrow.”
- Measure everything of significance. I swear this is true. Anything that is measured and watched, improves.
- Anything that is not managed will deteriorate. If you want to uncover problems you don’t know about, take a few moments and look closely at the areas you haven’t examined for a while. I guarantee you problems will be there.
- Pay attention to your competitors, but pay more attention to what you’re doing. When you look at your competitors, remember that everything looks perfect at a distance. Even the planet Earth, if you get far enough into space, looks like a peaceful place.
- Never let anybody push you around. In our society, with our laws and even playing field, you have just as much right to what you’re doing as anyone else, provided that what you’re doing is legal.
- Never expect life to be fair. Life isn’t fair. You make your own breaks. You’ll be doing good if the only meaning fair has to you, is something that you pay when you get on a bus (i.e., fare).
- Solve your own problems. You’ll find that by coming up with your own solutions, you’ll develop a competitive edge. Masura Ibuka, the co-founder of SONY, said it best: “You never succeed in technology, business, or anything by following the others.” There’s also an old Asian saying that I remind myself of frequently. It goes like this: “A wise man keeps his own counsel.”
- Don’t take yourself too seriously. Lighten up. Often, at least half of what we accomplish is due to luck. None of us are in control as much as we like to think we are.
- There’s always a reason to smile. Find it. After all, you’re really lucky just to be alive. Life is short. More and more, I agree with my little brother. He always reminds me: “We’re not here for a long time; we’re here for a good time.”
The above rules for survival is included with the permission of Bob Parsons () and is Copyright 2005 by Bob Parsons. All rights reserved.