It’s Spring in Australia which means we are less than 4 months away till the end of the year… I won't get into all that goals and what did you accomplish bullshxt but really WHERE has the year gone? So much has happened -both good and bad (as with every year) but there’s just been something so fundamentally different about this year for me. I’ve always been the type of girl who is so married to doing things by the book and is obsessed with perfection but this year showed me otherwise.
Your 20’s are for experiencing shxt and learning what floats your boat
I could say this again and again but I think this is something we all tend to forget because we want everything to happen like NOW. The perfect job, perfect life partner the perfect everything that makes us seem like the "ideal" human to outsiders looking in.
My uncle had to drill this point in my head and remind me that everything has its time. Nothing lasts forever so if you are going through a shxtty confusing time, grow through it and learn as much as you can about what your end goal is because if you don't figure this bit out you're bound to get stuck in a rut. Knowing what your end goal is/looks like is key cause as it gives you purpose and purpose fuels you even on a bad day.
Find your tribe and stick by them
As someone who has had to travel a lot, my tribe is all over the place, in Zimbabwe, South Africa, Namibia, London, Canada, New Zealand and of course Straaya mate. So it can be hard to really establish a solid tribe that is for you and just gets you -but it’s so important to have a tribe of people who love you unconditionally and will ride all kinds of waves with you. Likewise it’s equally important that you do the same, that’s how you keep the tribal fire burning.
The perfect moment is now
I’ve come to realise that as a writer, blogger or whatever creative outlet you use, it’s not always easy to feel proud of producing your work when you don’t feel your best. You find yourself holding off launching that THING because you are waiting until you are some angelic being or till you've made piece with the parts of yourself you find difficult to accept or understand… but I’ve come to realise that some of the most beautiful work from creatives never came from utlimate perfection, some of the best work came from souls that have been through the most. So if you're waiting for the perfect moment to do that thing... you might be waiting for a long time because I doubt the perfect moment exists... it's purely what you make of it.
People gone talk anyways
One of the most common fears or thoughts that tends to plague a lot of 20 something year olds, if you are still on this self discovery journey is “what will people think or say if I do x” this thought/fear is crippling. I wonder what many of us would pursue if we weren't stifled by the opinions of family members, so called friends and in some instances maybe even colleagues. Bottom line is there is always going to be someone running their mouth in the midst of whatever you're doing -so just do it anyway.
If you take away nothing else from this post, just know -while whatever it is you are facing right now may suck and if you feel like you are not where you thought you would be at this age or you feel like you aren't contributing enough to society, know that everything is actually happening the way it should and is preparing you for that thing you asked for.
Pay attention to every detail of your life, the pain, mistakes, joyful experiences, ALL OF IT. Pay attention because it's these things that present tiny little clues that show you what your next step should be.
My favourite all time slayer PR lady, Judy Smith gave her thoughts on this career + life thing:
Did she plan to do whatever she has been doing for the past 25 years?
“I did not plan it at all,” she says. “Plans don’t work as planned, at least for me. I realised there is this thing called life that happens in the middle of all your plans, unexpected turns happen so I think there is a certain beauty in letting the universe take you where it is supposed to move you.”